This post is a little off topic from book posts, but this is something I feel very strongly about. Especially lately with all of the attacks I have witnessed online as of late. I was already fed up but this morning I saw a post and it triggered something inside me.
Some people may not like what I have to say here, but hey, this is my blog and these are my feelings and my opinions.
Is it really a game at all?
It isn’t a game at all to me—it’s just a sad display of “Someone feel sorry for me!” or “It’s not my fault!” or maybe even as simple as, “You did this to me!” or “This is your fault!”
There are no innocents when it comes to blame. If you feel you need to put your feelings of transgression onto someone else’s back to carry around for you, then you may be guilty of playing the blame game.
There is no, “It’s all your fault!”
Every situation in life leaves you with a choice. YOU! Not anyone else.
So what do you do about something that has you feeling down, has you feeling as if you could point your finger at someone else for how you feel?
First, don’t point at anyone for any reason, it’s rude.
Second, step back and take a look at yourself and how you came to be in the point of your life where you feel the way you do.
Third, forgive yourself.
Fourth, forgive everyone.
Fifth, own your shit! Nobody made you choose to do what YOU chose to do!
Your life, your feelings, your shit!
Remember the old rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me!”
Where do you think that came from? It wasn’t someone who decided to blame everyone else for the way their life is or isn’t, for the friends they have in their lives or don’t anymore. It isn’t about calling names and throwing accusations at others like a child or adolescent might. It is about taking responsibility for one’s self.
Call me a jerk, call me selfish, tell me I am ugly, call me whatever you want, but in the end it’s me left standing, holding my head high, believing in myself above all. Only I can let it bother me. Only I can let it hurt me.
The truth hurts sometimes, and I am the one that has to live with my decisions just as all of you do.
Be good to yourself, be good to others, take responsibility for your own actions and stop playing the victim.
Sure, you may be or may have been a victim of some awful crime and NO, that is not your fault. If you have I am truly sorry. BUT what you choose to do afterward is! How you handle it is!
You are strong, you are beautiful, you are deserving—you are you! Own your own shit!